All My Ladies..

Don't be ​like me. To the girl that's reading this, don't be me. The best advice I could ever give you is to see your worth. I may be young, but I've learned a lot over the past few months. I think my mistakes come from not realizing my worth and letting guys take advantage of that. Most of you reading this are probably in high school or college. I guess the point that I'm trying to get to is that I've had my fair share of guys and it has taught me so much, but I don't want to see my friends or any girl experience what I had to. This dating world is very complicated, but it doesn't have to be. So many times we put our worth in the guys that we talk to and then 9 times out of 10 it doesn't end up working out. Then we go on this rant about how all guys are crap and how something is wrong with us or that we are not good enough. And that right there is not true because every girl is worth more than she can ever imagine but she has to realize that on her own. That right there is something that I struggled to realize for a long time. I just want my girls to be treated like the amazing people that they are. I want you reading this to be treated like the amazing person you are. I am so sick and tired of seeing things not work out between my friends or other girls and the guys that they "talk" to. Honestly, they deserve to be loved unconditionally and be treated so "amazingly". And just fall in love because love is a beautiful thing that is indescribable. Trust me, it is amazing. It all boils down to knowing how you should be treated. So often we settle for the first guy that calls us beautiful or gives us the slightest bit of attention. But hey, it is not supposed to be like that. The saying "you have to give a little to get a little" is honestly true. You have to give off a sense of knowing your value and worth to get maybe not your "forever man", but at least a "good man" that will treat you like the most important girl in the world until your forever comes into your life. And trust me he will, but until then still demand respect from every man. Just don't get lost in this whole dating process. Again, don't allow yourself to be mistreated by a man, therefore don't be like me. Don't let him talk to you any kind of way and don't you dare make excuses for his actions. Point. Blank. Period. I don't want to hear that your man is acting up because we are near'bout adults and those little games are unnecessary. Don't let these guys get in your pretty little head and say that you're beautiful and you're smart and you're just so nice but then 10 minutes later their actions aren't following up. Don't be that girl that constantly complains about "her man" and then a day later she's back under him like nothing happened. Okay, yeah we're going to make mistakes, we get on each other's nerves, but at some point, you have to be done and walk away. I look back on the guys that I used to talk to and I feel so disappointed. Disappointed because I let my heart be broken over and over because I constantly got my hopes up that the guy I was talking to was going to be who he claimed he was. When there were so many signs that he was not. Girls, I went on a lot of movie dates and dinner dates with "nice-ish" guys, but let me tell you.. that AIN'T love, that's just killin' time and buying wasted interest. Get a man that is going to be for you and only you. One that is your best friend first and foremost and will always have your back. A man that doesn't let you go to sleep wondering if you're good enough, and man that gives you his very best. A man that will listen to you and talk to you, not at you. Get a man that is imperfect, but perfect for you. The only thing is you have to realize your worth. You have to know that you are beautiful, amazing, incredible, intelligent, and so many other things. You have to know in your heart that you deserve a one-of-a-kind crazy and unconditional type of love. You have to be open and honest with yourself and know whether you're ready or not for something so real. You have to value yourself and find comfort in who you are, but also want bigger and better things for yourself. I just want everyone to value themselves and not be that easy girl, that one night stand, or that "I'm talking to this guy this week and that guy next week" girl. All I can say is keep your head up and know that you deserve the very best love that life has to offer. You will find your forever love, but in that process please don't ever lose yourself trying to accommodate the needs of somebody that isn't all in and all about you.. because you will only hurt yourself in the process. Don't forget to share, ​ XOXO

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